Reflect, share and lead with confidence in a supportive group 

Leading a school is rewarding, but it’s also relentless. Even for the most experienced leaders, the weight of decisions, challenges and constant demands can start to feel overwhelming. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day and feel isolated in the role, carrying thoughts and worries that no one else really understands. 

The challenge of isolation 

One of the things I hear most from leaders is how hard it can be to find a space where you can pause and reflect, a space where you can share openly without fear of judgement. Leadership is often about being visible, decisive and in control, which is exhausting when you don’t have a trusted network to lean on. There’s plenty of research that suggests that peer-support groups help leaders feel less isolated and more resilient, providing a confidential space to explore challenges without pressure. 

The power of a supportive group 

Being part of a small, trusted peer group allows leaders to offload and reflect, to explore ideas and challenges in a space where everyone “gets it.” It’s not about being told what to do, but about having the opportunity to think things through out loud, hear other perspectives and notice patterns in your own leadership. Often, simply verbalising a challenge can create space for clarity and new ideas to emerge. Studies indicate that having a safe space to reflect with peers can improve wellbeing and strengthen self-awareness. 

Reflection and self-awareness 

Groups like this also provide a unique chance for reflection and self-awareness. Hearing how others respond to similar situations or how they interpret challenges, can highlight our own patterns; the ways we respond that serve us well and the ways that might be holding us back. Understanding these patterns is the foundation of “self-led leadership.” The more we understand ourselves, the more choice we have in how we lead and the lighter the role begins to feel. 

Building confidence and resilience 

Another benefit is the opportunity to develop confidence and resilience. Leadership can be lonely and it’s easy to second-guess yourself when there’s no one to validate your thinking or offer a fresh perspective. A peer group creates a safe environment to test ideas, share dilemmas, celebrate wins and hear constructive insights; all of which build confidence and help you approach challenges with greater ease. Leaders report that these kinds of groups create clarity, perspective and a sense of support that helps them manage the mental load of leadership. 

Connection and camaraderie 

Finally, there’s the human element. Leadership can feel like a series of high-pressure tasks, deadlines and responsibilities, and it’s easy to forget the relational side of the role, including the importance of connecting with peers who understand the highs and lows. A supportive group can bring a sense of belonging, lightness and reassurance. It’s a reminder that we’re not carrying the load alone. 

The impact on your leadership 

Leaders often tell me that when they have access to these spaces, their job feels lighter. They notice they make decisions more calmly, communicate more clearly and recover faster from setbacks. It’s not a magic fix but research shows that structured peer reflection and support can improve wellbeing, strengthen self-awareness and sustain resilience over time. 

Whether you’re new to leadership or have years of experience, being part of a trusted, reflective group can help you untangle challenges, explore your own patterns and feel more supported in the work you do. Leadership is demanding, but it doesn’t have to be lonely. Finding a space where you can pause, reflect and share can make all the difference.